Sex tips for better orgasms with your partner

So often the goal of sex has been to get to an orgasm as fast as possible, right? Like it’s a goal in the net, and then everybody can go home satisfied.

That’s a reductive way of looking at sex. It ought not be about how much one comes but the experience itself. That said, we love an orgasm—who doesn’t? Some of the best climaxes are the result of intimacy with a partner or a psychological connection between body and brain. There are ways to set good conditions that can lead to an orgasm, even having a better one.

Below, we’ve got you covered on what an orgasm is, how often you get one (which is sometimes not at all and that’s okay!), and some sex tips to achieve better orgasms. Here we want less fuss and more heat!

What an orgasm is and how often you get one

Did you know that you reach orgasm from many different spots? It’s true: clitoral, vaginal, anal, penial, combo (any of the former stimulated at the same time), or erogenous (nipples, neck.) There are many more, but these are a few that occur the most.

There are a lot of ways to describe an orgasm, and pop culture has done wonders to make us think it’s like waves crashing into the shore. The reality is orgasms feel different for every person. They can be very intense—like the explosion of a thousand suns. Or they can feel like a big sexy exhale. The point is, they are different for everyone.

How often should you orgasm? Honestly, it’s up to you and your body. There’s no set amount, nor should there be. You can achieve orgasm as many times as your body allows.

Sex tips for better orgasms with your partner

If you want to achieve better, longer lasting orgasms with your partner, there are some ways to make that a possibility. Orgasms have to do with stimulation, penetration, and psychological aspects, like being open and vulnerable to be able to reach a climax with a person.

Below are our tried-and-true tips for better orgasms.

Go slow. We can’t stress this enough. Time is on your side for a better orgasm. Go slow. Have long, lingering kisses. When penetrating, go in and out with the slowness of a snail. Give edging a try.
Longer foreplay. For a lot of folks, foreplay is essential for better sex and better orgasms overall. Try lingering in this zone for a while with kissing, oral sex, sex toys—whatever comes to mind.
Give dirty talk a go. Dirty talk is highly underrated. It gets our libido and brain going. Imagining and fantasizing all of the things your partner says to you while they are touching you feels pretty phenomenal.
Try lube. Lube is always a go-to if you want instant heightened sensations. If you’re working toward the end of foreplay or penetration in a fun position, try using some lube to see where it can take that orgasm. Try K-Y^® Lubricant - Naturals^®^*, our water-based formula has no added fragrance or colours. It moisturizes your intimate areas for smoothness & comfort.
Switch up the positions. You may have a favourite position that gets you to climax every time, and we love that for you. Consider trying different positions to get different depth and sensations, which can lead to bigger and better orgasms. Doggie is one classic, but there are others, too, that might become your new go-to.