The art of hand play: expert tips on handjobs & fingering
The artistry of touch takes centre stage within intimacy, and your hands are the instruments necessary to orchestrate pleasure. But what if you don’t know how to play the conductor just yet? Worry not! Here are a few tricks that ensure everyone has a hand in giving and receiving sexual satisfaction.
Let your hands take sex from feeling mechanical to intimate in a matter of moments, and may your fingers dance with passion as they find their rhythm with strokes of success.
How To Use Your Hands For Pleasure
Put your hands up if you think you know how to give a beautiful handjob or finger your partner(s) with pure ecstasy. Now put your hands down and listen up: you deserve applause but can always do a little more. Let’s go over some tricks of the trade that can take your foreplay sessions from hot to lava-level lust – because your hands are some of the most useful tools you have. Make sure to wash your hands and trim your nails before you begin. And, as always, start with a little K-Y* of your choosing because less friction leads to more fun.
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Tips On Handjobs You Should Know About
Move over blowjobs, it’s time to get classic for a minute. Classic with new twists. To master the art of handjobs, start by teasing around the inner thighs while cupping the balls with your hands, performing light tickling techniques. Then move towards the penis by putting one hand on the base and your other thumb (or finger) on the tip – warming up the phallic phenomenon.
Take a hand and move it up and down the shaft, with a grip that’s not too tight, not too loose but just right. Don’t be afraid of a light twist motion with your hand around the penis. Keep the communication flowing with your partner(s) about what they like and enjoy and add more slide to the gleeful glide with a lube like K-Y® Lubricant - Sensual Silk® Liquid*.
To take matters into your own hands, try using two hands to stroke the penis as if you’re gently tugging on rope. Or use one hand to massage the head while the other caresses the torso, testicles, or thighs. Whatever the preference, you’re guaranteed to make it rise.
Tips On Vulva Fingering You Should Know About
Let’s face it, drive-by fingering just doesn’t work. It often leaves the partner with their vagina feeling dismissed and not prioritized – rushed to give in to being penetrated prematurely. If you have a vagina and want to masturbate better, or have a partner with one and aim to please them, here are some tips on fingering that can add more charge to a sexual scenario.
Make sure to start slow, allowing for teasing and arousal to build. Start stroking around the vaginal opening (the external) and the labia, which is filled with nerve endings that respond well to a gentle touch. Use your fingers to stroke back and forth, up and down, on the labia – whether in circular motions or pressing a few fingers together for an all-in approach.
Pinpoint where it feels most sensitive and where to apply more or less pressure. If you’re with a partner, make it a collaborative event. Then move into penetrating with your fingers – starting with one to find the G-spot (the raised, bumpy area about an inch and a half to two inches inside). Apply direct pressure and repetitive motions to fingering the vulva, while avoiding off-the-bat aggressive penetration. You want to build towards the sensations. Additionally, you can use your thumb to tease the clitoris and rub in circles for extra stimulation.
While using your fingers inside, you can take your other hand to cup the vulva externally to apply pressure to the pelvic area. Put your fingers together and take your palm to place it over the pubic area. This can have a comforting and warm effect. Or stroke the nipples while fingering for a sensitive and extraordinary nipple-gasm.
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Tips On Anal Fingering You Should Know About
Let’s be upfront about it, don’t leave out the behind when it comes to hand play. Discuss desires and limits with your partner(s) before approaching anal pleasure, then choose a water-based lube like K-Y® Lubricant - Naturals® Moisture + Intimate Gel* to minimize friction and maximize the moment. Begin with a single well-lubricated finger to get inside the anus, slowly, and gradually include more fingers to the mix once your partner(s) are comfortable.
Experiment with different pressures and motions – going in and out with your finger(s) as much as your partner(s) pleases. Stimulate the perineum (the tiny patch of skin between the genitals and the anus) with your other hand and watch as pleasure commences.
Pro tip: make sure the butt in question is thoroughly cleaned out in a warm shower before fingering – it will make for a more enjoyable experience for everyone.
Handing It Over To You
As we’ve examined the intricacies of handjobs and fingering alike, take the time for a nuanced dance of the hands and embrace the shared language of touch. Let your hands wield the brush that paints the most unforgettable strokes when in the mood. With those willing hands, you’re now more than able.
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