Sex tips to last longer

When it comes to answering the age-old question of how long should sex last for, answers really vary! It depends on personal preference, physical abilities, and sex drive—often, people with penises may find prolonging ejaculation tough.

Often, the start-and-stop method is highly effective to keep things going, but there are ways to physically ensure sex lasts longer, like pelvic exercises or squeezing. Remaining focused on your partner and staying in the moment is helpful too. There are other methods that can be incorporated into your sex routine that are fun and spice things up a bit.

No matter the reason, lasting longer can have some wonderful benefits for the quality of the sexual act, and building or rebuilding intimacy with your partner. For those who experience premature ejaculation, or anyone, really, who wishes to spend more time with their partner, we have some tips to help you last longer and spice up your sex routine.

Tips to last longer

Lasting longer is largely a matter of personal preference and general biology. If you have the ability to, these sex tips can help prolong the desire, heat, and anticipation of climax, and may even contribute to it becoming something mind-blowing.

Also, they can be a fun addition to your sexual repertoire as well!

Go slow

We live in a fast-paced world, so we get it. But that doesn’t mean your sex needs to be over in the same amount of time it takes to order a coffee.

Going slow, building heat, engaging in foreplay, taking time in sexual positions—all of these elements contribute to lasting longer in the bedroom. Going slow has been proven to increase time to climax.

Foreplay is a great way to engage in this slowness. Rediscover your partner’s erogenous zones by kissing or touching every one of them before moving on. Try dirty talk and touch at the same time.

That said, orgasms, while amazing, aren’t always the goal of the sex. Going slow helps facilitate intimacy in your couple, and who knows where it will lead you.

Bring sex toys and lube into the mix

Sex toys and lube for your couple are great things to incorporate into your sexual repertoire. A lot of what helps lasting longer is stopping, trying something different, and starting again, and sex toys and lube are ideal for that.

Try a new foreplay position that requires you to warm each other up with K-Y® Lubricant -Naturals*. Stop just before it gets too hot. From there, experiment with vibrators, dildos, beads—whatever your preference is. Not only does the experimentation aspect spice up your normal bedroom routine, it can really help prolong your sexual experience.

Try edging

Edging is a deeply satisfying way to maintain a sexual position with climaxing. The payoff is worth it. If edging isn’t something you’re familiar with, it is essentially exactly as the name suggests: you take yourself to the edge of pleasure and remain there for as long as possible until climax.

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Switch up sex positions

Switching up your sex positions is a key way to add more time to your experience and hold off on finishing early. Some sexual positions may give you a deep amount of pleasure (say doggy style, for instance, or the trusted missionary position.)

Try different positions throughout and see which ones you can maintain for longer while still feeling pleasurable. That’s key: remaining in a position that’ll take you out of the experience (like getting a leg cramp) is less than ideal.

No matter what you choose, try out a few different methods to last longer. We’re aiming for less friction, more fun!

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