How to have better oral sex and foreplay

There are a lot of great things in this world, but few are as extraordinary as foreplay and oral sex. Oral sex is a fabulous way to start foreplay or it could even be for the entire sexy session with your partner. Oral sex is, in a word, ecstasy.

Have you thought of levelling up all the ways you and your partner can pleasure each other with sex? Don’t worry, we’ve got the tips for you. We know things can get a little wet and wild down there with saliva and natural lubrication during any part of foreplay but using lube as well can help keep sensations heightened and spice up your foreplay sessions.

Ahead, we’ll go through what oral sex is exactly, some tips for better oral sex, how to have better foreplay, and where lube for your couple can help.

What is oral sex?

Oral sex is exactly as it sounds: stimulating a person’s genitals with your mouth. This can include a number of different movements with the mouth like licking or sucking. We don’t mean to make this sound as unsexy as possible but it’s important to note that oral sex is different from penetrative sex.

Oral sex can be the start of some spicy foreplay or the entire sexual experience, causing a person to climax. Every person’s genitalia—from penis to vagina to anus—has an abundance of nerve endings that make the area very sensitive and, for all intents and purposes, can be classified as erogenous zones. With oral sex, using one’s mouth or tongue can stimulate those areas in ways penetrative sex might not. It’s different for every person but it’s fun all the same.

Tips for better oral sex

If you want better oral sex, here are a few tips:

  • Talk to your partner about it. Feedback is a gift. Let your partner know what you like and don’t like. Even during oral sex, verbal cues like moans or saying “stay there,” or “a little to left,” will work wonders for improvement.
  • Bring sex toys into the mix. Oral sex doesn’t need to be sex-toy-free! Bring in some sex toys to spice up your technique, switching between mouth and toy.
  • Think about your endurance. We’re equipped with a finite supply of saliva, especially if you’re engaged in a pretty hot and heavy oral sex sesh. Take breaks if you can and go slow.

Tips for better foreplay

If oral sex is one part of foreplay, out of so many options, then you can—and ought to so you can keep it spicy in the bedroom!—try for all foreplay session.

Here are a few tips to make it better for your couple:

  • Let each other know what you like. Maybe you’re into anal play and not candle wax but your partner is. The key to better foreplay is talking through your likes and dislikes, and giving positive feedback when you do get it.
  • Experiment. There’s so much joy in discovery. We often forget that. If you want to try something new with your partner, go slow, figure it out, and see how it feels. If it’s not for you, you can say you tried! If it is, well, oh boy, then maybe you’ve got a new favourite move added to the rotation.
  • Lube! We only have a finite amount of natural lubrication and saliva. Help yourself by incorporating lube into your foreplay routine. It will heighten sensations for everyone, and save your saliva.

How to use lube

If you’ve never used lube, this explainer is for you. For the most part, lube is a water, natural, or oil-based substance that is intended to make our sexual appendages wetter so there’s less friction. Lube features can solve dryness for some folks, but it can also be an incredible addition in a person or couple’s sexual toolkit because, in addition to keeping conditions moist (we’re sorry!), lube helps heighten sensations.

Even if a person is already naturally lubricated, adding lube, like any K-Y® Lubricant - Naturals®* product, can help go a long way to make sex last longer and feel amazing.

*Ensure this product is right for you. Always read and follow the product label.