I Have a Higher Sex Drive than My Partner. What Should I Do?

We have all experienced a time where our levels of arousal have plummeted without any real reason behind it. Although this is very natural for both men and women to experience, it becomes rather difficult to navigate in a relationship where you consistently have a higher sex drive compared to your partner.

If you’re struggling to see eye to eye with your partner about your sex drive, it’s time to take action. Here are some great ways to help you engage with your partner and rebuild the intimacy within your relationship.

Have an Honest Conversation

One of the biggest issues between most couples is a lack of communication. Without having a clear understanding of what your partner is thinking, it’s easy to make general assumptions. In this case, you may be thinking “they’re not attracted to me anymore”, “they’re probably watching too much porn”, or “they’re cheating on me with someone else”.

To keep our minds at ease, open up the conversation with your partner to inquire about their sexual desires. Perhaps it’s as easy to fix as introducing a new sex toy, incorporating lubricants, or acting out a sexual fantasy.

Don’t Take it Personally

There are plenty of reasons why relationships struggle with intimacy issues. While your partner may be battling personal problems such as work, family, or finances, there’s a good chance that this has nothing to do with you or your relationship. Not taking their low libido as a personal issue can help you both work through this challenge and get to the root of the cause.

Seek Medical Advice

If your partner is experiencing abnormally low libido or drastic changes in their levels of arousal from one day to the next, it may be time to seek medical advice. Oftentimes, men may be experiencing physical (i.e. changes in diet or lifestyle) or chemical issues (i.e. hormone imbalances) that contribute to a drop in their sex drive.

Fortunately, with the right medical care, there are options available to help improve these symptoms — whether that be prescription medication, dietary changes, or exercising healthier habits.

Pleasure Yourself

Among the many different sex tips and advice we have to offer, this is one of the very best. It’s important to recognize that your partner is not solely responsible for your own pleasure. Engaging in acts of self-pleasure or masturbation more frequently can help you alleviate built-up sexual tension. Plus, you’ll feel more calm and relaxed by the end of it.