How to Prepare for Your First Time Having Sex with Someone New

Being intimate with someone new can be fun and exciting, but it can also be a little nerve- wracking. We’ve all been there - the giddiness of sharing our intimate pleasures with a new partner while feeling nervous about how the experience will go. There might be a lot of things going through your mind while preparing for first time sex with someone new, like what lingerie in your collection will make the best impression, or -
What if I say the wrong thing? What if I make a weird noise? What if it’s bad  ?

A great way to approach intimacy with someone new is to look at it as an opportunity to celebrate what you love about sex and explore new ways to enjoy it! The first time you get intimate with someone is not the end all. If you approach it as an exploration and a beginning (and a fun one at that!), you'll be able to laugh off any little bumps and really enjoy the moment.

Check in with yourself first 

Remember that it’s your sex and your pleasure that comes first. When’s the right time to get intimate? Well, it’s all up to you! Choosing the right time for you to take that step will not only make sex more enjoyable, it will help make you feel more comfortable and confident in the moment.

Remember: Reality is better than fiction 

Everyone wants their first time with someone new to be magical. But the reality is while the experience can be a really fun one, it probably won’t have a flawless movie ending either. Knowing each other and each other’s bodies comes with time, and a lot of the fun is in enjoying all the ways you and your partner can get to know each other more intimately.

Share what you like 

Own your pleasure, baby! Don’t be shy when it comes to talking about what you want. With someone new, you might be aiming to impress – but your partner should be aiming to impress you, too. Chances are your partner will appreciate the guidance, because, frankly, they won’t know what turns you on or off. Being honest in the bedroom is healthy and can help build trust both inside and outside of the bedroom.

 Use protection 

When it comes down to being intimate, protection is key. Whether you have been mutually tested for sexually transmitted infections before, using condoms with a new partner not only helps decrease the risk of infections and unplanned pregnancy, it will keep you both at ease.

Slip into something more comfortable using our K-Y® Naturals® Moisture + Intimate Gel, a water-based lubricant perfect for use with latex and polyisoprene condoms!

Don't forget to foreplay!

A great way to unwind, get in the mood and get rid of the jitters is with a little first time foreplay. This is the perfect time to get buttered up, ease into sexual comfort with a new partner and discover what you both enjoy between the sheets. And don’t forget, because foreplay is really each partner giving to the other, it can help build an emotional connection and make the experience all the more enjoyable.

Enjoy the moment!

Most importantly, remember to relax and have fun! Yes, the first-time with a new partner can be awkward and overwhelming, but first and foremost it's exciting. Don’t panic if it doesn't go exactly as you planned. Intimacy is full of surprises, and the best thing you can do when something awkward happens is laugh it off – and keep on doing what makes you both feel good.

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