How to Keep Intimacy Alive in a Long Term Relationship

Over time, some of the passion and excitement from a relationship can wither ever so slightly. Our once fiery spark fades as the exhilarating rush of falling head over heels in love with our partner feels a bit monotonous.

It’s important to recognize that although these feelings change, they haven’t disappeared. As a couple, we have the choice to focus on rebuilding intimacy to help maintain the thrill of being in love and continue on the path towards life-long passion and romance.

Read on as we explore 3 of our top sex tips and advice to help you and your partner keep the intimacy alive for years to come!

1. Spice things up with lube and sex toys

As a relationship evolves over time, it’s normal for couples to fall into a routine. However, one of the best ways to boost intimacy within the relationship is by being open and willing to try new things.

When it comes to exploring sexual interests, lube and sex toys are both amazing ways to help spice up the passion and desire in the bedroom. Not only can these tools be used to amp up foreplay fun, but they also make it possible to explore new sensations, last longer in different positions, and make sex more pleasurable.

If you’re looking to try a new lube, K-Y Naturals® Sensitive Gel * is a great place to start. Designed to enhance comfort, this water-based formula is made with naturally derived ingredients to give you the smoothest, most sensational experience. Add a couple of drops to your hands to massage onto your partner’s body or use it with a sex toy of your choice.

*Ensure this product is right for you. Always read and follow the product label before use.

2. Show your love authentically and consistently

Staying in love with your partner takes patience, consistency, and dedicated effort. Although you may assume your partner knows you love them, it’s important to take the time to show them in meaningful ways.

Since every one of us is different in a relationship, we also prefer to receive love in unique ways. According to American author Gary Chapman, there are 5 ways that romantic partners express and experience love also known as the “love languages”. These include physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, and gift-giving.

So, if your partner prefers words of affirmation, it’s more important for you to explain to them why you love them, how you acknowledge their successes, and why you feel lucky to be with them. On the other hand, if your partner prefers quality time, you can show your love to them by planning a date night or being intentional about making time to be present with them, free from distractions.

3. Continue having fun together

The ability to laugh and enjoy each other’s company is one of the truest signs of vitality and love in a relationship. When we are happier together, we are also more likely to have a higher sex drive and experience more intimacy as a couple.

Having a strong sense of humour can help soothe arguments, make everyday interactions more enjoyable, and foster a positive environment for everyone outside of your relationships, such as friends and family.

Even in the darkest of times when your relationship has been put to the test, whether that be due to losing a loved one, experiencing pregnancy challenges or postpartum depression, or significant financial hardships, having a partner who is willing to be present and optimistic can make all the difference.

The Bottom Line

Intimacy issues are a very common struggle that most long-term couples face at some point in their relationship. If you’ve been concerned about how often sex or intimacy has been the source of your challenges, begin practicing these three tips to help you spice up the love, passion, and intimacy in your life.